Do you still remember your first date?
You probably spent time getting dressed up. Perhaps you listened to a playlist which helped you feel like a boss! You went out to dinner or drinks to get to know each other better. It felt good to be around each other. You said ‘yes’ to the second date because you had so much fun on the first date.
Whether you’ve been together for 2 or 20 years, once the honeymoon period has passed in the relationship, couples often become stuck in the monotony of day to day life.
Sometimes we’re so busy we forget to stop and connect with each other. Creating time out of your busy schedule will help to bring you closer to your partner. It’s more than simply being in their presence, you need to create a deep and lasting connection. And no, sorry, but sitting on the couch watching Netflix doesn’t count!
It’s important to break free of distractions and scheduling a date night is a perfect example.
By scheduling in a date night, you’re giving each other your attention. In doing so, you’re sending the message “you are important to me”.
It’s also a wonderful way to press pause and to come back to the relationship but it takes more than just adding the event to your calendar. Couples who make the effort to reconnect on date nights are the ones who benefit most.
Disconnection is one of the biggest factors in the breakdown of a relationship. However, couples who spend time together enjoying each other’s company have higher feelings of emotional connection.
Emotionally, connected couples keep up to date with each other’s worlds.
Discussions can be both broad – where they’d like to go for the next holiday, what book they just finished reading.
Or deep – how they’re worried their boss doesn’t respect them, how guilty they feel that they don’t see the kids as much.
These may seem like trivial things on their own, but knowing them sends the message that you want to understand your partner better.
How a couple interacts with each other is the most crucial part of creating a successful relationship. There isn’t a magic formula to creating a loving and intimate relationship, it’s up to the couple to create compatibility and longevity.
Even if you’ve been together for a while and you feel like you already know everything about your partner, schedule in a date, let them know they’re still the most important person in your life. There are still lots of things about your partner that might surprise you.